Either Way It Will Be Ok

By Michael Maddaus / October 22, 2021 /

A very close friend of mine has cancer, and it is almost sure to end his life in the very near future. He lives in another city but was here on a short visit. We went to lunch and had sushi together the day of his flight back home. After lunch, I dropped him off…

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The Chess Moves of the Resilience Game

By Michael Maddaus / January 10, 2021 /

One day my wife Lea Ann said to me “nothing ever stops you.” She clearly did not mean it as a compliment, but I took it as one of the greatest compliments anyone has ever paid me. I grew up as an only child with a violent alcoholic step father and an alcoholic, often bed…

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Losing Touch With Touch.

By Michael Maddaus / December 11, 2020 /

The other day I was on a zoom call with the director of an organization that was considering hiring me to speak to their members about resilience in these challenging covid times and I was telling her about a key element of my talk, the Here and Now brain reward system, and gave two examples…

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Thanksgiving Monkey Business

By Michael Maddaus / November 25, 2020 /

What a state of affairs – the impending cold winter, covid, computer hell, loneliness, unemployment – so many negative possibilities for us to focus our attention on. As the saying goes, what you focus on grows. Especially in that massive galaxy of 100 billion nerve cells inside all of our skulls. So, in anticipation of…

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Acceptance: The Miracle Drug for Suffering

By Michael Maddaus / November 23, 2020 /

“So remember this principle when something threatens to cause you pain: the thing itself was no misfortune at all; to endure it and prevail is great good fortune…”  Marcus Aurelius The good news: several vaccines work and will soon start to be distributed. To have developed effective vaccines that appear to be safe and have…

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Dopamine Projects To Weather the Dark Winter

By Michael Maddaus / October 25, 2020 /

The last 5 days in Minnesota have been very gray and cold. There was a winter snow storm that blanketed us with a 5 inch layer of white down that quickly turned into alternating mush and ice. All this and the leaves have not even fallen completely from the trees yet! Then to top it…

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Begin Again

By Michael Maddaus / September 20, 2020 /

Two weeks ago our family drove up to northern Minnesota to attend a wedding of Kristina, a young woman who grew up in our neighborhood and who is to this day a very close friend of our family.  Kristina is a force of nature, and consistent with her overall demeanor of anything is possible, she…

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How to Weather the Winter Weather Until the Covid Solstice in the Spring

By Michael Maddaus / September 11, 2020 /

As I was making coffee last Monday morning I absolutely could not remember if it was Sunday or Monday. I stood there watching the coffee dribble into the pot totally stumped. I had to pull out my phone to get reoriented, just like tapping the recenter icon in the Maps app. We all seem to…

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